Brain dump (under 10 minutes): Write down everything in your life — work, personal, relationships, routines — that creates negative emotion, friction, or a sense of being out of alignment. Aim for at least 20 items.
Prompt yourself across these areas:
Be specific — not “too many meetings” but “back-to-back meetings with no space to think before I have to give an answer.”
Then prioritise and rank: Pick the 5–10 that hit hardest, and number them 1 (most important to change) downward.
The Flip: For each of your top Don't Wants, write the concrete opposite — not a vague positive.
Example: “I don't want to feel invisible in decisions that affect me” becomes “I want to be in rooms where my perspective is genuinely sought and makes a difference.”
Add freely: Go beyond the flips — feelings you want more of, people you want around you, conditions where you thrive, the impact you want to have. Aim for 20 items total.
Stuck? Think of people you admire — the quality you find attractive in them often points to something you want for yourself.
Prioritise & rank: Pick your top 4–5 and number them most to least important.
Think of 3–5 specific moments — work or personal — when you felt most energised, fulfilled, or in the zone. For each one, tell me:
Now a moment where you felt most like yourself — where you thought “this is why I do this.”
What are you naturally good at? What would people who know you well — partner, close friends, trusted colleagues — say you're naturally good at, even if you don't think it's special? List at least 7. Don't filter for modesty.
What comes effortlessly? What do you do that others find difficult but feels almost effortless to you — so natural you barely notice? List 3–5. For example:
A compliment that stuck: What's a compliment you've received that genuinely surprised you or stuck with you — one you still think about?
Repeatedly recognised: Is there something people have recognised in you repeatedly — across different jobs, relationships, and stages of life — that you've never quite claimed as yours?
Your future self: Imagine a future version of yourself you'd genuinely be proud of — not in terms of what you've achieved, but who you've become.
The feeling of success: What does success feel like — not look like? Strip away the external markers. In the moments you thought “yes, that's it,” what was actually present internally?
